Going Hands Free

If you recall I mentioned that I'd bought a Bluetooth 'phone the other day. Well, because I really don't like sticking foreign objects in my ears if I can at all help it, I looked around for a Bluetooth gadget for the car and found this:

The Supertooth Voice. I got mine from the fine folk at mphone. It attaches to the visor of the car via a clip and magnets and does a reasonable job with my new Nokia 'phone. With lots of ambient noise it's not always able to deal with voice commands, but it seems to work okay most of the time. 

Set up is quite easy, and a nice thing is that you can pair up to eight 'phones with it and it will remember them. 

Church helps ex-porn star

A former porn star has left the sex industry to start a new life as a college student and church secretary, a group ministering to sex workers announced Tuesday.

Sophia Lynn, 24, is now an office staff at Celebrate Community Church in Sioux Falls, South Dakota in the US, where she will work while attending college. The South Dakota church offered Lynn a place to live, a college scholarship, and a job at the church office when they heard she wanted to leave the sex business.

“This is like a dream,” Lynn reflected from her new home in South Dakota nearly a week after her move. “I hope I don’t have to wake up from this. I feel like my life has been saved.”

It's great to read stories of churches actually making a difference. I found this story on the Christian Today feed. Read the whole story here. I wonder if we, if I, could make the same kind of response if asked.

Leaving well: More thoughts about the back door

There are many reasons people leave the church. Some are positive, some are negative. The goal when a person or family leave the church is to help them leave well and leave graciously. The worst case scenario is that they leave negatively and in so doing do damage to themselves, to the church and to the leaders. Leaving well enables both sides to bless each other as they seek to follow God wherever he leads them. 

The first thing we probably need to recognise is that it will not always be possible to help someone leave well. Either through their choice (some people just want their grievances aired as loudly and publicly as possible) or because they are not ready to deal with the presenting issue that has precipitated their departure. Having said that, we need to get better at the leaving process and we should try as hard as we can to make it a positive experience.

The overriding principle must be grace. Grace on both sides. Where the issue is sin, then we need to be a gracious church, offering forgiveness and reconciliation wherever possible. We must endeavour always to leave the door open, offering an opportunity to return to the community of faith. Where the issue is pain for the leaver, then the leaver too must be gracious. The church is not a perfect place, the people are not perfect. 

The first step in leaving well is to establish the core reason for leaving. This will determine what next step needs to be taken. It will also help you identify whether there is the possibility for reconciliation or not. There can be a lot of speculation about the reason a particular person or family have chosen to leave. Establishing the core reason gives the leadership of the church and the membership of the church the opportunity to address issues surrounding leaving and leavers without all the speculation that goes with them.

When all is said and done, folk will leave the church and they will leave however they want to leave. Leaving well doesn’t just have to mean standing at the front and blessing the congregation and the congregation blessing the leaver. Leaving well is about knowing the reasons, leaving the door open, minimising pain and maximising grace.

The one that got away

We recently finished our series on characters in our Sunday morning celebrations. We looked at Abraham, Joseph, Sarah, Ruth, Jonah, Peter, David, Esther and Joshua. We finished with Zacchaeus. But there were a lot of others we could have done. A long time ago I did an A-Z of Bible characters, I remember that 'F' was Philip and I think 'Q' was probably Queen someone. Anyway, this time I chose a mixture that made sure I included some of the strong female characters on my list. But there's always one you wished you could have found space for in the series, probably more than one.

Of all the characters I could have chosen, the one that got away this time was Elijah. I think Elijah would have made a good 21st century minister. He's passionate, he's committed, he's faithful and he feels totally alone! He has high highs and low lows. He prays powerful prayers and runs away at the first sign of trouble. He knows when God is going to make his presence known and keeps getting back into the game. He even works on discouraging anyone from following him into ministry!

I think, if Elijah were around today he would understand the frustrations of leadership. He'd understand when you told him that if things don't change you're out of here, and he'd understand that when they don't you're still around. Not because you can't leave, but because you know that God has called you to stay and stick with the programme.

When God finally gets Elijah alone on the mountain, and when Elijah is ready for the biggest question of his career, God asks him: "Elijah, what are you doing here?" God asks Elijah this question twice, and twice Elijah gives the same answer. Perhaps God was hoping for a different answer the second time around. Perhaps Elijah was so convinced of his aloneness that not even encountering God was going to change how he felt about his situation. 

Whatever the purpose of the exchange, God simply says to Elijah: "Go back the way you came and..." And what? Continue to serve me, continue to do what I ask you to do. Ministry is not known for it's glamourous side. Outside of the church, very few people will ever know who we are, even inside the church few will know. But God knows.

God knows how you feel, he knows what is going on in your life, in your ministry, in your church. And he still wants your wholehearted devotion. In the end of course it is God whom we serve. We might feel like Elijah felt, but like Elijah, we are not alone because God is with us.

Book Club: The Numbers of Hope

We had our Book Club meeting last night, March 19th, to discuss The Numbers of Hope. The overall impression was that it was a really helpful and encouraging book to read. The narrative style was appreciated and the stories used, helped to explain the point being made. Overall a very accessible book. The group felt that this was a book they could give to a friend or family member in the right circumstances.

  

Our next choice is Too Busy not to Pray by Bill Hybels. This book has been around for quite some time now and gone through several publication. It was first published in 1988 so 2008 is the 20th anniversary. Given that prayer is one of those things that falls into the category of "most talked about, least practised" areas of our lives, it makes a good choice. 

If you want to join is, hare thoughts and comments, you can do that here or via Shelfari.

iCal default alarm

In Leopard, iCal has a default alarm setting, the only problem being that the default sound really doesn't get your attention. This has been a bit of a frustration for me, so I decided to see if there was a way around this and find one I did. 

On the Macworld site there is a hint that shows you how to change the default alarm sound for all new appointments. You can find the article here.

A word of warning, for some reason, although I typed the command line for terminal exactly it didn't work for me. I don't know enough about Unix to know what I was doing wrong but it rejected the -/Library... string as an invalid path or file. Perhaps there was a subtle error I was making.

Anyway, in the end I downloaded the trial version of plistedit pro and that got the job done nicely. I now have a more attention grabbing alarm for my reminders.

Finding forgiveness

Thank you Michael for pointing me to this video.

I'm not sure I would use the same language to unfold the implications behind the clip, but the clip is very powerful and the point clearly made.

Forgiveness

From today's (Monday March 17th 2008) devotional from Scripture Union.

Seeking forgiveness

Seeking forgiveness ‘Forgive us our sins’ is a deep prayer. It is not a mantra that works if you say it enough. Nor is it like one of Harry Potter’s spells: ‘forgivoramus!’ and everything is sorted in a flash.

It’s an invitation to examine ourselves inwardly and outwardly, spirit and soul, attitudes and actions, words and wishes. This Spirit-led self-examination drills through the layers of self-deceit and self-justification. Just as the cock crow was a lie-detector for Peter, our earnest confession of sin reveals how we deny the calling of Jesus on our lives.

In a moment, it’s time for you to pray that prayer, ‘Forgive my sins’, and let God’s Spirit show you what that means. But first you need to know that God’s Spirit convicts you of sin only so that he can lead you forgiveness and restoration.

Peter discovered this beautifully when Jesus, risen from the dead, asked him three times, ‘Do you love me?’. He was shown that his three denials were forgiven and forgotten (John 21:15–17).

So give some time now to the simple prayer, ‘Forgive my sins.’ Let the Spirit show you what needs to be forgiven and soak every denial in the forgiving power of Jesus.

Martin Hodson

Did you watch?

So, we sat and watched the first part of the BBC's retelling of the final week of Jesus' ministry leading up to the cross. Overall we really enjoyed it. I liked the developing of the characters through the different intertwined plot lines. It shows promise.

Office on the Mac

It's taken me a whole week to pluck up the courage to confess that I've bought and installed Microsoft Office for the Mac 2008.

Sadly there are some things, well one thing, that Word does that Pages doesn't and it's a really useful thing to boot. Obviously Apple still needs to have conversations with report writers and others who use wide tables and graphics interspersed with ordinary text. Word lets you mix landscape and portrait in a single document, Pages sadly does not. C'est la vie.

So there it is. Somewhere there's a smug Windows user thinking I told you so, but the truth is, if it were not for this one thing I'd wouldn't have even considered Office.  

A synchronised life

I recently bought a new mobile 'phone because I wanted to enter the world of Bluetooth. The long and short of it is that I'm thinking/planning to change my car and many of the newer model come with Bluetooth installed. So, buy a Bluetooth 'phone I thought.

Now the logical course would have been to get an iphone, and believe me I'm all for being logical. The problem is that in the UK there is only one cellular provider you can use and they lock you into a £35 a month contract for the privilege. I'm not about to start spending £35 a month just for the iphone when I probably don't actually spend £35 a year on my mobile anyway.

So I needed an alternative and decided to stick with Nokia and go for a simple Bluetooth version. I ended up buying the 6085 and it works a treat. The only problem was that when I tried to synchronise it with my Mac, it wouldn't work. Imagine my horror when I checked out the Nokia site to see a whole list of 'phones that would work and the one model so obviously missing was the one I'd just bought!

The upside of this story is that last night, with a little help and encouragement from super-mac techy David, I found a solution which is working fine. I can now synchronise my contacts and calendars between the Mac and the 'phone thanks to James Lloyd who should be hailed as a hero!

I am now one happy sychronised baptist minister. The question is: will this help me not to miss appointments?

The Hammer Holds

This has to be one of my all time favourite songs around the theme of Easter. I listened to as I walked through the woods this morning. I find it hard not to cry as I think about all that Jesus did for me on the cross. It also helps me forgive myself as I feel the pain of this morning's failure.

Disappointed and disorganised

There is no magic trick, no grand plan to being organised. It is just a matter of discipline and choice. I must choose to be organised and I must be disciplined about being, and continuing to be, organised. 

David Allen's book Getting Things Done is a great starting point for developing habits for living with a greater sense of organisation. I know the goal is greater productivity, but I don't suppose you get that without becoming organised.

This all came home to me this morning when I suddenly realised I'd missed an appointment through sheer carelessness and lack of discipline. I'd written the appointment down in my diary, I'd captured all the details in the appropriate place, but I failed to check my diary in time. Once again I subconsciously relied on my memory and it didn't work.

So, I've written my apology note and I'll probably beat myself up for a while longer about by abject failure. But unless I resolve to actually take action to do something differently, it will happen again.

So, if you've fallen off your organisational wagon and feel overwhelmed by your disorganised and chaotic lifestyle, determine today to do something differently. Choose one thing you can change that will make a significant difference and begin to practice that habit until it becomes an automatic habit. 

For me it's got to be to check my diary at the end of the day and set suitable alarmed reminders for anything early the next day. And then check again at the start of the day. After all the reason I have a diary is precisely because I can't remember everything!

The Passion

The BBC's retelling of the last week of the life of Jesus begins on Palm Sunday at 8:00pm. It looks fascinating and runs through the week. There's an outline of the running order on both the BBC website and Premier.

Unlike Mel Gibson's film and unlike the release of The Da Vinci Code, this series doesn't seem to be getting hyped up in the Christian media as the greatest opportunity the 21st century church will have for evangelism. That, for me, is a very positive thing. I found all the emails and publicity that came my way about the other greatest opportunities just too much. Every Sunday is a great opportunity, every day is a great opportunity to share the life and death and resurrection of Jesus with those around us.

I remember going to see the Gibson film and wondering if any of my unchurched friends would actually comprehend it; whether they would simply come out of the cinema shocked and bewildered by the whole thing. Good as it was, it didn't produce a rush of interesting conversations. And, if the truth be told, I'd rather have sat down with a group of friends and watched Bruce Almighty and talked about our images and understanding of the nature of God than try to use Mel Gibson's Passion.

I hope there will be many opportunities for conversations, many opportunities for pointing people toward Jesus. I'm certainly going to watch it carefully so that I can use what I can on Easter Sunday. But I also hope that we will learn how to be Christians in plain view, how to share our faith in positive ways and how to engage our friends in conversations that might nudge them towards Jesus.

And my prayer? It's very simple: "Lord use this drama in ways we cannot imagine to make yourself known in our nation."

Criticism

A long while now I put down in a post some thoughts about handling criticism. It's a sensitive area of all our lives and something we all have to deal with at some time. I guess the only choice we get is how we handle criticism.

Anyway, I came across some helpful insights made by Rick Warren on the Acts29 blog. He said:

Turn your critics into coaches by hearing what they are saying and humbly considering if there is any truth in their criticisms to learn from. Never engage the critics on their terms because it only escalates the conflict and is not productive. Be very careful with firing off emails or leaving voicemails and responding out of anger in a way that you will later regret. Shout louder than your critics to define yourself and do not allow them to define you.

All very good advice.

What's my line?

One question that’s been wandering around my mind is this: Does our present focus on the minister as leader mean that we’ve devalued the minister as pastor?

Let me explain.

I wonder if we’ve reached a point where we recognise that the church needs strong, positive, enabling leadership and in order to have that we need to call people with leadership gifts to lead the church. But not everyone with leadership gifts has a pastoral gift too. Given that the vast majority of churches, certainly the vast majority in the UK, can only afford one full-time minister, what happens when you appoint a leader rather than a pastor?

I feel this acutely in my own ministry because I don’t see myself primarily as a pastor. I care about people but I’m not wired up as a pastor, or at least I’m not wired up to do what I perceive a pastorally wired person would do. I hear this same self-description from others at gatherings of ministers over the 17 years I’ve been in ministry. I can’t comment on how much this reflects our process for accepting and training people for ministry because I didn’t train specifically for ministry when I attended college.

So where does that leave us? Well I think it leaves us in a place where we know that we need high quality pastoral care in our churches, but I also think it leaves not knowing how to implement that care because we don’t know who should be doing the care. We still have a system of ministry that presumes it’s the primary responsibility of the minister as pastor to do the caring, but if the minister isn’t wired for It how effectively can, and will, they do it?

If our new leadership model is more focussed on being a team, then the role of the minister is to lead effectively, delegate appropriately, and enable widely. But that also implies that we need committed and gifted partners to make this happen. It is no use delegating a responsibility to someone who never does the job!

Perhaps we have got it right, perhaps we haven’t lost sight of the duty of care. Perhaps we just need to work smarter at developing a 21st century model for fulfilling our core call as God’s family, recognising the gifts and skills of those we call to leadership and building effective teams around them.

Building good pastoral care is one factor in closing the back door of the church, that’s why it’s so important that we do it well. As to the role of the minister, there’s still much to do.

I remember a long time ago now, as I was thinking about my role as a leader in church, I happened to be reading through Leviticus. It’s not the book I’d normally choose to read devotionally, but it was on my reading plan so I read away. In Leviticus 6 as I recall it describes the duties of the priests. One duty was simply to keep the fire burning on the sacrificial altar. That picture has stayed with me as I see part of my role as keeping the flame alight. 

I am privileged to be someone who knows that God has called them to this work of ministry and leadership. I am privileged to have a group of people around who recognise that too and who reach into their pockets weeks by week, month by month, to make it possible for me to not to have work in order to minister. Because I don’t have to go to the office I can go before God and tend to the flame.

Why do people leave the church?

Ron Kallmier, who lead the Closing the Back Door seminar, pointed us towards Luke 15 and the three parables about lost things to think about why people leave the church. Three possible reasons:

1. Lost by accident. In other words they wander off and before you know it they’re lost and disconnected with the church.

2. Lost by the carelessness of others. They get hurt by someone or something that happens and they leave.

3. By personal choice. The prodigal son chooses to get himself lost. Some people leave church because of personal sin, ie choosing to leave rather than face the discipline that comes with being a part of a faith community.

Eat & Pray

Today's devotional from Scripture Union (see my blog entry: Daily Devotions for the Internet Generation) is about the Passover Jesus shared with his disciples just before his crucifixion. The reading is from Matthew.

What caught my attention was the short note about agape meals. It was as follows:

To do list

With other Christian friends (and your minister’s blessing or involvement) plan an informal agape meal together. Share food, prayer, praise and personal stories of what Jesus has done for you, and read these Bible verses together.

It strikes me that we spend too little time even thinking about what God has done for us recently, let alone sharing those stories with others. When did our faith become so personalised, so privatised, that we lost the priority of walking together on our journeys of faith?

When the writer of Hebrews urges the readers not to forget to meet together, I suspect he wasn't thinking purely in terms of turning up on a Sunday as we are prone to think.

A simple strategy

A simple strategy for processing the absent attender

If a person misses one Sunday:

Check with people who might know why.

Respond appropriately (visit, call, card or note, or no action needed)

If a person misses two consecutive Sundays:

Unless a known issue (eg hospitalisation, holiday) make informal contact via a call, a card or note, an email.

Follow up any response as appropriate

If no response then make a special point of checking on the third Sunday and if present, make a point of connecting with them and checking out why they’ve been away.

Respond appropriately

If a person misses four or more Sundays

Make contact specifically to ask why no attendance. Offer a clear opportunity to talk.

This strategy has to be adjusted dependent upon the frequency of attendance. So, for someone who is typically there every week, absence may be more critical than for someone who comes once a month.

What constitutes an appropriate response

If the reason for absence requires pastoral intervention, the pastoral coordinator needs informing and a plan of action established.

Otherwise a follow-up visit may be all that is needed.

Useful levels of contact include: A hand written note or card, either on Church stationary or plain stationary. An informal email. An informal ‘phone call. A text message. Flowers.

If something more formal needs to be arranged then an appointment should be planned. 

Some links to thoughts about closing the back door

A short web search on Closing the Back Door of the Church turned up a series of interesting articles that you might like to dip into if you too are considering this idea. Here are three:

When a friend leaves your church

Creating commitment to your Church

Can the church close the back door?

Interestingly most of the articles at some point raise the issue of "no one noticed" when someone left. I think it's more to true to say that someone probably noticed, but no one acted. Clearly the dynamics are different as churches grow. It has to be more difficult to be aware of changing patterns of attendance in a large church compared to a smaller church. This is why Rick Warren, amongst others, points to the vital role small groups fulfil in this area.

Perhaps the first step in a strategy is to determine that no one will leave without being noticed. Or maybe it should be that no one is absent without being noticed.

Even as I write that I realise that we live in a very different culture. A culture where, on the one hand, we run the risk of being accused of not caring and on the other we're accused of interfering. We do seem to want to be noticed and loved whilst maintaining total privacy!

Managing the back (and front) doors of the church

The seminar I attended the other day has got me thinking and maybe even a little inspired. 

Although it was not made explicit in the seminar, I take it that when we talk about the back door of the church we are using it as a metaphor for the exit strategy of those people who leave the church disgruntled or disengaged in some way or another. Now this doesn't necessarily have to be the case. In fact, as the seminar developed through the day, it became clear that for some the back door was simply the exit used by anyone leaving the church.

This in turn generates some confusion because there are times when it is right for someone to leave their church, so why would we want to close the back door on them doing so? It seems to me that what we need to do is to manage the traffic that passes through the back door rather than approach it as the simple matter of keeping closed. I want to help people leave well if leaving is what they need to do.

So, I'm going to begin work on developing a strategy for how we manage our back door. Maybe this is, in part, a defence mechanism so that we can say that we've done everything we can to help a person to leave well, but it's surely worth having a plan. Even more so in our highly mobile and low commitment society where people move on with apparent ease. I've had a few thoughts that I need to get in some sort of order, but I'd be interested to know if anyone has a strategy that works well, or ideas about what might work well. 

As someone who has left a few churches over the years (that's because I'm a minister I hasten to add) I've had my share of good and bad experiences. I know too that it's just plain impossible to please everyone, so even the best strategy won't work for all leavers. 

To drop a pebble in the pond of your thinking, I suspect that the best strategy for managing the back door might just begin with our strategy for managing the front door, the entry point to our churches.

Joel Edwards

Joel Edwards,who is standing down as Director of the Evangelical Alliance, spoke about evangelicals and the challenges we face at the recent launch of his new book. This is what he had to say:

In a forward-looking address, he said the heart of the matter was not about advancing evangelicalism as a political or Christian system, but was instead about “how we help people understand that God is ultimately the God of Good News and is interested in people’s wellbeing”.

Turning to some of the challenges facing evangelicals, he pointed to the commonplace view that evangelicals are a US export more interested in homosexuality than poverty, and a mascot for the Republican Party.

“Evangelicalism has a serious PR problem and it’s not hard to grasp why,” he said.

Referring to some of the recent angry protests from evangelical circles over Jerry Springer the Opera and the Sexual Orientation Regulations, Mr Edwards said that Evangelicals had gained a reputation as the “angry brigade”. “We are known more for our anger than our anguish,” he noted.

Mr Edwards said that the responsibility to reverse evangelicalism’s bad reputation lay with evangelicals themselves.

“If people are going to think differently about evangelicals, the only people who can change their minds are evangelicals,” he said.

You can read the full report at ChristianToday.com

He raises some interesting points. It seems to me that we are back to the issue of grace. If grace is primary, then perhaps our attitude and approach will have to change from the angry crowd to the compassionate crowd. If we stay angry, then judgement rules.

Who was it who observed that the problem with evangelicals is that everyone knows what they stand against but no one knows what they stand for.

Closing the Back Door of the Church

Yesterday, March 6th, I spent the day at Waverley Abbey House for a seminar about Closing the Back Door of the Church. Overall, it was an interesting day but I think we got a bit side-tracked. The discussion was good, but my goals for the day were to think through strategies for helping the church deal with through traffic of people coming and going in the life cycle of church, and we didn't do that. much of the discussion was about the nature of church.

There are many reasons people leave the church, many negative and some positive. The question is not about whether people will leave but how they will leave. If people are leaving via the back door, one of the hard things to discern is when to stand in front of the door and when to hold it open!

I guess using the "back door" image implies that people are slipping out unnoticed and potentially uncared for or unchallenged. This raises issues with the way we do pastoral care and discipleship. What was interesting is that some people articulated the view that you should get a new attender involved in something as quickly as possible and other advocated a waiting period. To be accurate, the "waiting period" view mostly related to any significant role in the life of the church, whereas the "get involved in something" view focused on small groups and relational things.

All this needs more though and reflection.

On line book shelf

Colin, a fellow blogger, has pointed me to a web application called Shelfari. We've been experimenting with an online book club and this application might be a useful way of interacting on the internet.

It seems to be early days with the development (I was surprised that I couldn't use html for example to make quotes stand out), but it might be worth a look.

Are you a Moderate too?

I've just seen the Christianity Today hermeneutics quiz and I came out as "Moderate". Apparently that means that I'm not too conservative but then again I'm not too progressive either. Does that mean I'm stuck in the middle, neither one thing nor the other? Not really. I don't think it's that simple. Moderate isn't just somewhere between two extremes. 

Moderate seems to me to be quite demanding. It demands that I neither reject the truth of the Bible as it is, and yet neither am I satisfied with a "the Bible says it, that settles it" kind of theology. To be moderate means to be thoughtful, to want to search out both the historical and cultural meaning and context and then to discover the significance of that meaning in our modern-day setting.

If that means that I have the appearance of inconsistency, I'm pro-marriage but against capital punishment for example, I think that is because life is inconsistent and working out our faith and practice is an inexact science.

Maybe I'll reflect more on this when I have a little more time.

If you want to take the test, you can do that here. 

My score, by the way, was 59, so I guess that actually makes me moderately progressive. How interesting though that the divide is no longer between conservative and liberal, or are all progressives perceived as liberal?

MacBook and laptop go to Starbucks

Because March begins with the same letter as MacBook, I thought I'd begin the month with a short post in praise of the Mac.

I know that a MacBook is more expensive than a Windows laptop, but I have to say that there are some things that make it worth the extra. Take for instance Thursday. Anne and I took Ally over to Chelmsford for her last University interview. Having walked up to the Reception building, we left her there to get on with her day, and we set off back into town to Starbucks to run a wi-fi experiment. Anne works for a big multi-national company and we wanted to see if she could connect using a wi-fi hotspot so that , when we're away later in the year, she won't have to run back to the office in London to do a job she could do remotely.

So we chose our drinks, sat at a table, and got out the laptop and the MacBook.

The laptop booted up, searched around for the wireless network, eventually made a connection and we opened internet explorer (sorry Andy if that took you by surprise, I know you consider IE to be the work of the dark side). Nothing. No connection, no welcome screen, just the "can't find the page" message.

The MacBook. Opened it up and it wakes up to a new world. Finds the available networks, I choose the one I want to try, open Safari and it says: What do you want to do now? It's not my homepage, but somehow it is obviously working with the wi-fi hotpspot to help me rather than confuse and frustrate me.

Same scenario in MacDonalds where the wi-fi was free!

You see the MacBook just worked. It's a delight to use. There are moments when it does things I don't expect and things close unexpectedly, but there are times when it just does what you want it to do without having to delve into all sorts of proxy settings and connection profiles.

So, if you are about to change your old PC or laptop, give some serious consideration to a Mac. The offers on laptops might look good, but watch out for insufficient amounts of memory to run Vista. The £300 laptop on sale in the High Street might not be able to cope with memory hungry Windows applications.

Sales pitch for the month is over now, I promise not to mention how good my Mac is for at least another month (unless there's a really good reason!)

Being Jesus to others

I'm coming to the end of Seeker Small Groups by Garry Poole, and very interesting it's been too! Anyway, I just want to share with you part of a very moving poem that is cited in the book:

Do you know

do you understand

that you represent Jesus to me?

Do you know

do you understand

that when you treat me with gentleness,

it raises the question in my mind

that maybe he is gentle, too.

Maybe he isn't someone

who laughs when I am hurt.

...

If you care,

I think maybe he cares-

and then there's this flame of hope

that burns inside of me

and for a while I'm afraid to breathe

because it might go out.

Do you know

do you understand

that your words are his words?

Your face, his face

to someone like me.

Please, be who you say you are.

Please, God, don't let this be another trick

Please let this be real

Please

What moved me about this poem is the significance of relationship in the whole process of evangelism. We've reduced becoming a Christian to nothing more than giving assent to a series of philosophical-religious principles and concepts that we think our role is simply to convince someone that our position is the right position. We seek to win the argument, but in so doing we always run the risk of losing the person.

The person who wrote this poem eventually came to faith. And the reason they decided to trust Jesus, the final compelling argument that tipped the balance and convinced them?

It was nothing like that. It was simply that I met a couple of people who were like Jesus to me. That's all it took.

Larry Norman

I discovered yesterday that Larry Norman passed away earlier this week. Some may know of his music, perhaps many will not. I remember him as the first Christian musician I went to see live. It was in 1977 or '78 in Cardiff. I remember listening to him as he stood alone on the stage and held the attention of the audience as he told his stories and shard his songs.

On grace

In a prayer meeting with other church leaders today we got talking about grace and the gospel and church discipline and truth and so on. The question seemed to come down this: How do live by grace without compromising the truth. Now there was a lot of discussion which I can't remember or do justice to without writing a long essay, but two things stood out in the discussion.

First, we all tend towards having rules because it's a safe way to live, so we all want rules. Grace doesn't abandon rules it just says that keeping the rules isn't the solution to the root problem, sin. Judaism understands this because, when all the rules are listed and a few added in for good measure, if you ask the question, "What does it mean to walk with God?" the answer that comes back is, "Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, strength and mind, and love your neighbour as yourself." In other words, it's not about the rules it's about grace.

The second thing that painted a wonderful picture was the phrase: Wide arms and high standards.

God's arms are wide, wide enough to be inclusive of anyone who chooses to be included. But the standards are high, too high for us to achieve on our own. That's why we need Jesus, it's why we need the cross. And if you imagine wide arms set against high standards, the shape you get is the shape of the cross.

Pdf-Pen and me!

Perhaps it is just me and maybe I haven't really tried hard enough to get to grips with pdfpen, but it hasn't worked for me.

I don't have to edit many pdf files, but the ones I've tried to edit with pdfpen haven't worked too well. I suspect that this is mostly down to the way the files were generated, but having said that, if all files are generated in similar ways then I'll have similar problems.

Things that didn't work for me included the rather laborious method required to edit a simple text box. First you needed to select the text and then you had to replace it with and editable text box, then you could edit the text. The problem as that the selection tool would pick up some text and not others. In the end  it turned out to be much quicker to recreate the whole document and start over.

So my verdict in pdfpen is that it didn't make my life any more simple when it came to handling pdf files. I think I'll give Preview a closer inspection.

Church Leadership

I was wandering around the Internet looking for inspiration and ideas about leadership and I came across this outline of leadership in the church:

1) Visionary leaders
• They help us see what those good works may be that God "prepared in advance for us to do."
• They help us see the potential God has for us.
• They help us "press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold" of us and not get stuck where we are or to think that we "have already obtained all this" (Phil. 3:12).
 
2) Administrative leaders
• They help us implement the tasks effectively remembering that we were "created in Christ Jesus to do GOOD works."
• They help us "do it all for the glory of God" (1 Cor. 10:31).
• They help us by designing procedures and coordinating programs that enable us to do those good works.
 
3) Shepherding leaders
• They help us be prepared spiritually to do those good works as "WE are His workmanship."
• They help us by feeding us, protecting us, comforting us, encouraging us, warning us, and guiding us.
• They help us by their example to remember that we must do all we do willingly in and because of love. (1 Pet. 5:2-3; Jn. 21:15-17)
  
We need all three kinds of leaders because . . .
 
1. People matter. – "we are His workmanship" Shepherding leaders tend to be more people-oriented.

2. Task matters. – "created in Christ Jesus to do good works" Administrative leaders tend to be more task-oriented.
 
3. Goals matter. – "which God prepared in advance for us to do" Visionary leaders tend to be more goal-oriented.

I like this outline because it identifies three clear areas of responsibility for leadership without necessarily assuming that a single individual has all three qualities in equal measure. The challenge, in a local church, is to find these three qualities and deploy them across the leadership team.

Maybe this is the role of a small team of elders, or the core of the leadership team. We consistently review our leadership structure, seeking to develop a team model that serves the whole life of the church,  carries and casts the vision, and does not rely on a single person to achieve all of this. This outline may help us better understand the nature of this leadership.

The website where I found this outline is mintools.com.

Seeker Small Groups

Sitting on my pile of books to read has been Garry Poole's Seeker Small Groups. I've been meaning to read this book for quite some time, and a gentle prod from the author via a comment on a blog entry I made spurred me on. I'm very grateful for the prod, because it finally made to the top of the pile and I discovered that it's a great book.

I've still got about 100 pages to go, but I think this is a book that deserves to be read, especially by all those Christians who embark on running Alpha courses without doing the training. The reason for this simple: most people don't listen enough and tend to talk too much. This is especially true of evangelical Christians who lead small groups of any kind. Too many times I've heard a small group leader talk about "the curriculum" as if it's something they must deliver to group. What I like about Garry Poole's perspective on Seeker Groups is that they are a safe place for a seeker to be heard. That's very much the position that should be taken when running Alpha. It's an opportunity to explore not an opportunity to be lectured.

This is how Garry describes the purpose of a Seeker Small Group:

We want to give our seeking friends an opportunity to identify their toughest objections and obstacles to faith in Christ–and, by thinking out loud, process them within the safety of our group. We want to provide a forum in which our seeking friends can safely address their toughest spiritual questions and investigate the claims of Christ at their own pace...

Important in this process is our determination to listen and to listen well. Describing the progress of one small group towards the point of being ready to hear spiritual truths explained, he makes this observation:

Looking back, I feel I didn't talk any of them into the kingdom; I listened them in!

... my role of doing more listening than talking, more facilitating than teaching, and being more relational than intellectual, played a crucial part in the process where they were ready and willing to learn spiritual truths from the Bible.

These truths are just as valid whether you're running a long-term small group for seekers, whether you are looking to start such a small group, or whether you are using a tool like Alpha to help you engage with spiritual seekers. That makes this book worth reading.

Prayer month (week 4)

Here's the outline for week four

Monday 25^th Feb.

We want to share God’s heart for the marginalised in our world. Thank God for the work of organisations like Fair Trade and Stop the Traffik. Ask God where we can be most effective in relieving poverty and oppression in our world.

Tuesday 26^th Feb.

Pray for our communities. Pray that God’s grace would be seen throughout our neighbourhoods. Pray that Christ would be honoured, and that many would begin to seek a relationship with God.

Wednesday 27^th Feb.

Pray for the church during Richard’s sabbatical. Ask God to provide people to meet the ministry needs of the church during that time. For those who will teach and preach and for those who will perform any funerals or other services on our behalf. Pray that Richard, Anne and Ally would benefit greatly from this time of rest and reflection.

Thursday 28^thFeb.

Thank God for the part you play or the part you can play in the future life of the church. Ask him to give you the gifts you need to fulfil his purposes in and for your life. Ask him to renew your passion for ministry and mission and to fill you with his Spirit. Commit yourself to honouring and serving him with your whole life.

Friday 29^thFeb.

Give thanks For God’s deep love for us as his church. Thank him for the way he has blessed us and spoken to us. Thank him for the month of prayer.

Saturday 1^st Mar. & Sunday 2^nd Mar.

Take some time to reflect on this month of prayer. What things has God brought to your attention? What things need further prayer? What are you going to do next?
Has God spoken to you about something that the whole church needs to hear about? Do you have a story about this month of prayer that you could share with the church on a Sunday morning?

Helping people grow

There's an interesting article on the Christian Today website about tools they use at Saddleback to help people grow in their relationship with God. Rick Warren begins by saying:

All living things grow. Growth is evidence of life. If a child doesn’t grow up, that’s a tragedy. If a believer never grows to spiritual maturity, that’s a tragedy.

He then outline the tools they use at Saddleback:

The first tool is to put everyone into and through six levels of spiritual growth:

1. Community (everyone in driving distance)

2. Crowd (regular attenders)

3. Congregation (part of the family)

4. Committed (living a disciplined Christian life)

5. Core (committed to using their spiritual gifts in a ministry)

6. Commissioned (these are described as the people who take the Great Commission seriously)

The second tool is a weekly commitment card. Everyone is encouraged to make a practical application of the weekend message.

The third tool is the weekly message notes that are made available.

Clearly it's a very strategic approach, (you'd expect nothing less from someone with Rick Warren's gifts) that might not suit everyone. But I have to say that there is a lot to be said for raising the level of expectation of a response from folk if we are truly concerned for their spiritual development.

I think too, that the six levels raise valuable questions about how we get people to move from one level to the next, and how we measure the effectiveness of the process and the growth that comes from it. Given Willow Creek's recent discovery that programmes alone don't guarantee growth, we wouldn't want put all our discipleship eggs in the one basket, but then again we don't always appear to put them anywhere anyway!

You can read the full article here.

The Numbers of Hope (2): God's whoever clause

The Number of Hope is not a hard read. That much we know. Like all of Max Lucado's books there is a wonderfully simple narrative style that I enjoy as I've already said. But it's the way this narrative style draws you into the unfolding story of the book that inspires me to want to write.

Take chapter 7 Heaven's "Whoever" policy.

Whoever unfurls 3:16 as a banner for the ages. Whoever unrolls the welcome mat of heaven to humanity. Whoever invites the world to God.

I love the image it evokes and the narrative that Lucado then uses to explore the length and breadth of the "Whoever clause". It's a great explanation of the core of the gospel message, that God's grace is truly available to anyone and everyone who will come and take it. Anyone who will believe and receive what God freely offers.

Thank you for the cross

After all the recent debate over the atonement, sparked by to comments made by Steve Chalke a few years ago, I still find myself in awe of the amazing self-sacrifice God made on my behalf. 

Whether you got hot under the collar about the "cosmic child abuse" comments or not, this much is surely true: if it were not for God's intervention on your behalf you would be facing an eternity dealing with the awful price sin exacts from every one of us. 

That God loves me so much that somewhere in eternity the Father, Son and Spirit resolved to deal, once for all, with sin, my sin, humbles me. That the Son offered himself (and therein lies a crucial truth for the atonement) as the carrier of the weight of the sin of the world and that the Father agreed that this was indeed a sufficient price to be paid, is surely an amazing expression of love and grace.

Reading Hebrews just brings all this home to me once again. The theological arguments may rise and fall, the nuances of language and syntax may continue to challenge and perplex, but the cross stands over all and indeed has said it all. It has the final word. But for the willing sacrifice of Jesus Christ the lost remain lost, and always will until they are found, and I would still be one of them.

How does God feel about me?

I'm currently preaching a series on various characters in the Bible. This coming Sunday it's David. Having just done Peter, it's interesting to do another great character who was flawed and made mistakes, and yet, because of the grace of God, still found a place in his purposes and plans. But then again how many biblical character wouldn't you describe that way?

I do not believe that there is ever such a thing as God's second best for us. The grace of God can take all our errors and bring about something that will glorify and honour God's name.

Anyway, as I think about David and some of the things I might include on Sunday I was reminded of a quote we used at Christmas in our Carol Service. There's a great Max Lucado book called One Incredible Moment, that contains extracts from many of his other books around the theme of Christmas. Near the beginning, in fact it may be the first chapter, he says this:

Here is what we want to know. We want to know how long God's love will endure... Does God really love us forever? Not just on... Sunday when our shoes are shined and our hair is fixed. We want to know... how does God feel when I'm a jerk? Not when I'm peppy and positive and ready to tackle world hunger. Not then. I know how he feels about me then. Even I like me then.
I want to know how he feels about me when I snap at anything that moves, when my thoughts are gutter-level, when my tongue is sharp enough to slice a rock. How does he feel about me then?...

The Numbers of Hope (2)

Just a quick thought, maybe a way to have an online discussion about the book would to be open up a wiki? I don't too much about how to do this (I'm experimenting at the moment with a church based wiki for other things), and I'm not sure even if you could subscribe to a wiki in the way you can to a forum or blog.

Three-Ninety-Fifty

One of my favourite questions comes from Bill Bright, the founder of Campus Crusade. Apparently he used to ask this question of the staff at CC. I don't know if he only asked it once or if he asked it consistently, but it is becoming a question I've asked a lot and a question other people around the church are beginning to ask too.

And the question is:

What three things can we do in the next ninety days that will make a fifty percent difference?

Trying asking yourself that question in whatever setting you're in today and see what you come up with. It could be a productivity issue, a ministry issue or even a personal growth issue. I've used it in a lot of settings and it has helped me focus my attention on the positive thing or things I can do rather than the negatives of what I can't do.

I rather suspect too that there are some minor variations that you could use from time to time. For example, Ally, my daughter, has a lot of coursework and home to complete at the moment and it can seem overwhelming. I guess she could ask herself the same question but make it 90 hours instead of days. It's almost GTD-like in that it focuses your attention of the next action you can take to move a given project along.

Creating pdf's from any document

Like me you've probably suffered the frustration of someone sending you a document only to discover that you can't open it or when you do, you get a whole host of messages telling you that you don't have the right fonts installed etc. If this never happens to you, then ignore this post, if on the other hand it does, read on.

My biggest problem always came with Microsoft Publisher files. If you didn't have the same version as the sender, you almost always got stuck with a file you couldn't read. Now I've gone to Mac, I have some problems with all Office files, whatever version they are. And you don't have to be a Mac user to experience this. I'm sure there are still some Lotus users out there and other applications with which people struggle.

The answer of course is a universal format that will look the same whoever opens it on no matter what platform. The pdf file is one such format. Everyone knows Adobe Acrobat Reader, and I've blogged before about pdf generators, although I've never gone into detail. They're simple "virtual printers" that will produce a pdf file from any application. Just hit print and choose the pdf generator rather than your usual printer. Pdf995 is one such application and Primo is another that I've heard people talk about.

If you either don't want to or don't have permission to download and install a pdf generator onto your computer, you might be interested in pdfonline. As its name suggests, pdfonline is a web-based application that will take your selected file and generate a pdf for you.

I've given it a try and it works a treat, although I'm yet to try and edit the generated pdf. I think it's a handy site to be aware of in case you're away from your system and need to create a pdf for emailing or printing purposes.

What car?

On Saturday we had a day away for the leaders. As we began, we asked ourselves this question:

If the church was a car, what kind of car would it be?

My favourite answer was: "A new VW Beetle–a modern version of an old classic"

I thought that was a really interesting take on church. It was meant positively. We have a classic message that doesn't change with time, but the way we do things has changed.

We then moved on and asked ourselves what kind of car would we like it to be. This turned into a drawing of a bus with all sorts of interesting things going on as we added to our picture.

Sometimes these sorts of exercises can run away with you, but by thinking in a different way to the way we might normally think we have the opportunity to be creative in ways we may not normally be creative. I remember listening to an interview between Bill Hybels and Steve Sample, the President of USC (University of Southern California). During the interview he told the story of how he developed the concept of an electronic controller for a dishwasher or washing machine (I forget which). Apparently he lay down on the floor and thought about how a small insect might control the machine.

So, if you're a bit stuck today because you can't see how to get from where you are to where you want to be, you might want to try something that might at first appear really odd, but in the end might just open your eyes to a possibility you can't quite see from where you are currently sitting.

If drawing cars or imaging how ladybirds might run your church are not for you, you might like to try mind-mapping or spider diagramming. I use this technique for developing sermon ideas and presentations. I start with my central idea or proposition in a box in the middle of the page and then branches of words, ideas and phrases. From there I try to pick out the recurring and bigger themes.

I know some people have very precise rules about how to mind map, but I just get the paper and a pen and go for it. If you haven't tried it, give it a go, you might be surprised by the outcome.

What happens when we preach?

There has been a small discussion once again about the place of the sermon in modern church life. Are they too long for the modern mind? Whilst I'm not advocating long sermons for the sake of it, it does seem to me that one of the things that needs to be considered in the sermon is the opportunity for God to interact with preacher and congregation alike.

Over the years I've prepared and made notes in all sorts of ways. I've preached well and badly, with and without notes. The older I get the more script-like my notes have become. I think that's because I'm increasingly aware of the importance of every word I use and every point I'm trying to make. So, I'm just becoming more careful, not leaving it to chance that I will remember that neat turn of phrase that came to mind on Wednesday afternoon. 

What hasn't changed is the way in which I sense that God takes my preparation and uses it in ways I haven't imagined. As I preach I feel the nudge of God to read something or share a story not in my plan. Take today for example. Our current theme is all about characters. We've studied Joseph, Esther and Abraham. Today we looked at Peter. It just so happened that today was also communion and, as I took us through the preparation and experience of sharing the bread and cup together I sensed God point me towards the story of the foot washing. I hadn't planned this, to be honest I hadn't even given a thought in my preparation for some reason. 

But as I stood in front of the congregation I sensed the pull of God's Spirit to read the story. So I had a quick, silent read as the bread and wine were being distributed and as we came to a quiet moment after the wine, I began to read. 

We had already explored Peter's beginnings as a fisherman and the change Jesus promised about becoming a fisher of men. We'd reflected on the highs and lows of Peter the one who walked on water and the one who denied Jesus. We'd seen him at his best and his worst. We looked also at his reinstatement and the simple, non-accusing question of Jesus, "Peter do you love me?"

So, as I read the story from John 13 it became clear that the one thing God wanted us to remember was that no matter what mistakes he made Peter was above all clean.  

I'm not suggesting that we would not have reached that point through a ten-minute sermon, well prepared and well delivered. I'm just saying that because we give ourselves time we also give ourselves the opportunity to connect with God and hear what he has to say in that moment of sacred space where the Spirit of God touches the hearts of ordinary human beings.

I'm afraid that if we move too far towards settling for short attention spans, we loose the chance to dwell. Given how little people remember of our sermons, perhaps it's the dwelling that's the most important aspect of preaching not the length of time it takes to present it.

Having said that, I do remember Steve Gaukroger once saying, "I'm not going to bore you with a long sermon today, because I'm quite capable of doing it with a short one!"

Round in circles or up a spiral?

We had another of our regular away days for leaders, and very helpful and useful and encouraging it was too. There is much to process from it all.

What always fascinates me is how differently wired people approach the same thing. I'm wired up in a way that means I work best when I'm involved in an ongoing conversation. Although I write stuff down, I carry a lot of things in my head and a lot of thoughts pass through my brain as I think and ponder ideas. Writing them down is important, but there are things about the spark of a conversation that get my thinking juices flowing. So, for me to be effective I need to keep talking with everyone about everything.

For other people it can seem like we're having the same conversation over and over again without actually get anywhere at all. We go full-circle and end up exactly where we started and apparently we're no further forward. Sadly sometimes that's true.

But sometimes it isn't.

What can get missed is that we're having the same conversation but in some way we have moved on from the last time. It's as if we go around the block, but on a spiral. So, when we get back to the place we began, we're actually just a bit higher up, a bit closer to the solution. If you go and find a screw or a bolt or a spring (you could take the spring out of your ball-point pen if you want), and then run your finger around the thread, you will keep coming back to the same point in one plane, but you will be at a different point in the plane at right angles to that plane.

If that sounds too complicated, just go get the bolt and you'll soon see what I mean!!

So, the next time you think you've gone around in a circle, check your position, you may have moved further than you think!

The price of brand loyalty

I was quite amazed when I discovered that my car insurance company appears to think that just because I'm a loyal customer that I don't deserve the best deal. 

Last year I heard a piece on the radio about this. The reporter pointed out that if you get a fresh quote as a new customer even with your existing insurer, you can often save money. So I tried it and it was true. My loyalty was costing me nearly £200. 

Well, the long and short of this is that because of a claim I'd made a few years ago, it wasn't worth my while changing insurers last year, but this year it was. So I did, and it was still almost £200 cheaper.

Now what bothers me is that my loyalty to one company was not being rewarded. I find it's the same with my ISP. They even told me once that it was my responsibility to keep a check on their packages and find the cheapest package that suited my needs. Their responsibility was obviously the opposite of this, to charge me as much as they could get away with charging.

So the simple moral of this tale is that, in the market place economy, brand loyalty no longer pays, from the point of view of the customer that is. If, of course it ever did.

Geoff joins the bloggers

It's time to welcome a new inmate to the world of blogging. 

Geoff Colmer is another Baptist Minister who currently serves as a Regional minister and team leader in the Central Association. You can pick up his blog here.

Go and visit his blog and encourage him to post!

How do I remain in Jesus?

If you remain in me, and I remain in you, you will bear much fruit and glorify my Father in heaven.

This verse caught my eye as I sit at my desk thinking about the sermon for Sunday. It has nothing to do with Sunday's theme, but it's on a piece of paper tacked to my wall. I think it was last year, maybe early summer, when I decided to spend a day reflecting with God on church and life and connecting the two. I scribbled random thoughts and ideas down on a flip-chart, and this verse was one of those thoughts. I haven't the checked the wording for accuracy, it is as it came to mind that day.

Anyway, it caught my eye again today and I thought, "Why don't I do a series on remaining in Jesus?" So I might. I began to scribble a few ideas down in my notebook set aside for future preaching themes. But what does it mean to remain in Jesus? When you hear that phrase what runs through your mind? I began to think about different words that might connect with remaining, here's my list, what would you add?

Remain: abide, dwell, rest, make your home, commit your long-term future, put down roots, prioritise, focus, follow closely, abandon selfish goals and ambitions for the sake of the kingdom, get to really know-deeply, passionately, unconditionally....

Does this fit with a Biblical view of remaining? What would Jesus have said were the one, two or three key elements of remaining?

The simple things in life

Foe some time now we've been discussing and considering our photocopying needs at church. Being a smaller church, and not having had good copying facilities before, it's really hard to work out what was a good plan and was not so good a plan. We looked at the typical kind of contracts and I guess in the end they were a little expensive for us.

Anyway, we finally found an alternative and today, with great excitement, we took delivery of a nice little Canon copier. Now it won't make the big boys gasp, but it certainly brightens my world.

The model in question is the iR1022A, not much bigger than my colour laser printer it produces very good copies with a host of options. I can use single sided originals and get single sided copies, or I can get double sided copies, or I can get two originals on one side copies, and yes, I can even get double sided, two per page copies from four single sided or two double sided originals. Marvelous! I wonder if it makes tea?

It's the simple things in life that can make an otherwise drab, foggy Wednesday in February seem so bright. I think I might go and copy something.

The Numbers of Hope (1)

I began reading The Numbers of Hope today. As usual with a Max Lucado book the imagery is strong and yet the book is not difficult to read. There's an easy flow to the prose that I find draws me along as I read.

Chapter 1 is titled The most famous conversation in the Bible. There's no escaping the centrality of the words at the heart of this conversation (John 3:16) to evangelical Christian faith. What struck me most as I read Max's picture of the unfolding conversation was the contrast between the worlds represented by Nicodemus and Jesus.

Behold the Continental Divide of Scripture, the international date line of faith. Nicodemus stands on one side, Jesus on the other and Christ pulls no punches about their differences.

Nicodemus inhabits a land of good efforts, sincere gestures, and hard work. Give God your best, his philosophy says, and God does the rest.

Jesus's response? Your best won't do. Your works don't work. Your finest efforts don't mean squat, Unless you are born again, you can't even see what God is up to.

This is not about who Nicodemus is as much as it is about what he represents. Just as the woman at the well in the next chapter of the gospel represents the other end of the social and religious spectrum.

Whatever we think we know, Jesus blows it out of the water, and he challenges us to rethink what it means to connect with God.

The ease with which the words of John 3:16 fall from many a Christian's lips rob them from time to time of their majesty and their simplicity. "God loves, God gives, we believe, we live", as Max would say.

Something has to change

Two days after Christmas 2007 our world at Cotton End Baptist Church began to rock. The telephone rang and the voice at the other end said simply: "Robert is missing." At first we thought that Robert, a young man of 17 in our congregation, had walked away from his family or possibly that something had happened as he'd made his way home the day before across the fields and foot paths between villages. Maybe he'd gone off the stay with a friend. Many 'phone calls were made, and we walked some of the routes he may have walked. A week later his body was recovered from the river and a murder investigation was underway.
On Monday of this week, February 11th, we said our farewells at his funeral. Friends, teachers and family members spoke about him and shared their memories with the congregation of over 300 people. "It was a great send off for him," was one of the comments I heard. But the problem is this, we should not have been giving a 17 year old young man a send off at all. Something has gone terribly wrong in our world that young men like Robert can lose their lives in the way he apparently may have lost his (a trial is set for later this year for three young men arrested in connection with his death).
Robert was not the first and he hasn't been the last person who appears to have lost his life to the angry and violent night-time society we have these days. And it has to change. The question is how do you change a society that has become increasingly touched by violence and disorder. Is it time to accept that while action films and violent films and TV do not produce violent behaviour in most people, there surely must be a connection with the things we watch and the way we act? When the only difference between the hero and the villain is that the hero shoots straighter and hits harder, does that not desensitise us to the fact that violence is not an acceptable way of solving a problem or asserting our point of view?
The poet in the psalms has a challenge for us all in these days of media bombardment when he says: I will set before my eyes no vile thing (Ps. 101:3), there is a choice to be made.

And if the root of our anti-social behaviour problems is alcohol, then maybe if we can't drink responsibly as a society it may be time that as a society we choose not to drink at all. Or at the very least make it easier to say no and more expensive to say yes. It would be interesting to know how the price of alcohol relates to the disposable income of teenagers and young people today compared with previous generations. How we make the changes needed I don't know, but somehow we have to find a way to break the chains of addiction that have brought us to this place.

And then I remember the cross. I remember that this exactly the reason that Jesus came into this sorry state of a world and exactly the reason he was nailed to a cross. The only hope our society has is in the cross, and the church, as the messenger for the message of the cross, is the the vehicle of hope God has chosen.

So we pray and we work and we live for the sake of the kingdom of God, to see lives changed, redeemed, restored and rescued. We know that only through Christ can things ever change. We can't legislate morality, we can only point to a better way.

Our society is probably safer than it was for many of our forebears. Many of the footpaths I walk for pleasure I suspect were not even safe during daylight hours in past centuries. The 21st century is no better and probably no worse. Whether it's safer or not, the simple truth remains that Jesus is the only hope for our nation.

Prayer month–week 3

Here's the outline for week three of our month of prayer:

Monday 18th Feb.

Everyone is on a spiritual journey. Some people are moving away from God, some are moving towards him. Our role is to be there when people need a spiritual guide. Who are you helping with their spiritual journey? Has God placed any particular person in your life who you can help? How can you help them take another step towards God? Ask God to speak to you about these things.

Tuesday 19th Feb. & Wednesday 20th Feb.

Take a little time to review what you feel God has been saying to you over the last two weeks about spiritual growth, involvement in ministry and outreach. Ask God to confirm these things and help you refine them into to achievable goals. Ask him to help you see these goals through.

Thursday 21st Feb.

Give thanks for the grounds and buildings that we have available to us. Thank God for the vision of our predecessors who built the church, the manse and the hall and cottages. Ask God to give us a clear vision and purpose with regard to our buildings. Pray for the planners, that they would understand what we are trying to do with our buildings and that they would be sympathetic to our need for change. Pray for wisdom for all those who are working on building projects at this time.

Friday 22nd Feb.

Our nearby communities are set to grow significantly beginning this year. Pray for the new developments at the Wixams. Ask God for one house in the first village that will give us a place from which we can reach out to that new community. Pray for the new homes nearing final completion in Cotton End and pray too for the expansion plans in Shortstown. Pray that God will help us to be creative in the ways we connect with our new neighbours.

Saturday 23rd Feb.

Pray for the emerging Pastoral Care Team. Ask God to help us establish a strong pastoral network in the church. Ask him to raise up pastoral carers in the church and to give us a deep pastoral concern for each other.

Sunday 24th Feb.

Our vision is: to build a great church. Pray to day that God would bless the whole ministry and mission of the church and that he would add significantly to our numbers. This is not about becoming a big church, but a great church with great influence for the glory of God in our communities. Seeing people come to faith is an important part of this vision.

Our survey says...

Nearly three quarters of Christians say the Bible challenges them to live in a way that runs counter to today’s culture, a survey commissioned by Bible Society has revealed – but they still struggle to apply that challenge to their daily lives, the organisation warns.

This comes from an article on the ChristianToday.com website.

It seems that the ordinary Christian has a hard time applying what they read in the Bible to their everyday life.

So it's surprising that at the same time that Christian's are admitting that they find application difficult, the use of Bible reading notes and helps is in massive decline. So maybe Scripture Union's new web based devotional is a timely idea.

Daily Devotions for the internet generation

Scripture Union has launched an internet based Daily Devotional with podcasts, audio readings, reflections and questions. You can take a look by visiting the SU website and following the Wordlive link.

Going Public

One of the things I love about blogging is the unexpected relationships that form through the comments and feedback you get. I don't get that many comments, but then again I don't blog in order to get comments, I blog as part of my ministry and as aprt of my personal process of reflection.

Anyway, a recent post about sharing faith produced a comment from one of the authors, Bill Peel, of the book Going Public with your Faith that gets mentioned. That set me off on a search and I discovered 24sevenfaith.com, the website associated with the book.

Bill's blog is here and is worth a look if you are involved or want to become involved in helping people live out their call in the workplace.

What I like about the book are the four big ideas that are developed. You can read more about them on the blog or in the book, but here they are in headlines:

• Big Idea One: The workplace is the most strategic place of Kingdom influence for most Christians.
  
• Big Idea Two: Evangelism is a process, not an event.
  
• Big Idea Three: Our job in evangelism is to discover where God is already at work in people’s lives and join him there.
  
• Big Idea Four: Being a person of spiritual influence is every Christian’s calling, not just the responsibility of a gifted few.
  

Book Club rules!

Thank you Colin for wanting to join the Book Club. The rules (so-to-speak) are very simple:

1. Read the book over the course of the next few weeks. 

2. Post some thoughts and reflections.

This is the tricky bit, exactly how to do the reflecting via a blog.

Maybe the simplest way is for me to post some thoughts and then for others to post comments to that post. I might then take the comments thread and turn it into a post, we'll see how we go.

If anyone has experience of running a reading group via the web, let us know how you did it.

How to share your faith?

I was talking to Anne as we went for our Saturday morning walk around the local wood. She's recently discovered the Christian Group at her workplace and she was telling me all about their plans.  Apparently they've been discussing how they can share their faith more effectively in the workplace and are about to embark on a training course to that end. I mentioned a book I read a little while ago (kindly sent to me by Mike Olsen who I got to know through the Ordinary Attempts blog) called Going Public with your Faith. 

What interests me is that when Christians think about how to become more effective in sharing their faith, they tend inevitably to gravitate towards a method of presentation. It's as if we've grown accustomed to a diet of words as the key. Get the words right and effectiveness will increase. Now I know that getting the words right is important, we all want to make the most compelling presentation of the truth that we can. But I can't help thinking we keep missing a trick or two. I remember the 1990's when we had the decade of evangelism in the UK. Millions of pounds were spent on new initiatives, new training programmes, new "How to share you faith" seminars. The nett result was that over a million people left the church. 

My current reading is a book by Garry Poole called Seeker Small Groups. In the book he develops a strategy for launching small groups for spiritual seekers. He talks about the phases seekers go through and he sets out some key principles for making invitations. One point that sticks in my mind is this: Hang out with seekers.

If we are going to win friends and influence people for the kingdom, then we need to spend time with them. All the training in the world won't make any difference if we are not in the world rubbing shoulders with hurting people and letting them into our lives to see the difference Jesus makes.

Back-track to the post about Sunday lunch and the way Christians are despised in the restaurant business for being difficult and stingy. How can we sit and listen to the narrative of grace for an hour and then go and be so ungracious afterwards? It doesn't make sense! We should be learning to live out the grace we've experienced not just talk about it. As Eliza Doolittle so rightly said, "Words, words, words. I'm sick of words, show me!"

So, while we learn how to verbalise our faith, let's learn how to share it through our lives, our generosity, the time we give to others. Let them know they matter to us and maybe we will earn the right to tell them how much they matter to Jesus as we go.